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@hewittemoore
Women have finally been liberated from the oppressive chains that men have kept them in since the beginning of time. Nobody really knows why it took 200,000 years, but thanks to progressive political ideology, men and women are now equal.
Women should have never been forced to stay at home and raise babies while the men got to do all the fun things in life – like dying in wars. It's too bad men didn't conceptualize the innovations (e.g., “rights”) that made sexism obsolete a lot sooner. But at least they finally got around to it. However, there's still a lot of work to be done on the basis of gender equality. Because men still exist. And as long as they do, they will do things that hurt women's feelings.
When a female's feelings are hurt, or she is objectified in a sexual manner, society should be made aware of it. That way everyone can be reminded of what happens when toxic masculinity goes unchecked (women are expected to get married, have children, cook and clean).
Women should have never been forced to stay at home and raise babies while the men got to do all the fun things in life – like dying in wars. It's too bad men didn't conceptualize the innovations (e.g., “rights”) that made sexism obsolete a lot sooner. But at least they finally got around to it. However, there's still a lot of work to be done on the basis of gender equality. Because men still exist. And as long as they do, they will do things that hurt women's feelings.
When a female's feelings are hurt, or she is objectified in a sexual manner, society should be made aware of it. That way everyone can be reminded of what happens when toxic masculinity goes unchecked (women are expected to get married, have children, cook and clean).
To reassure women's feelings, today's virtual information systems have evolved into click-bait gossip tabloids. Jaded journalists relish every opportunity to publicly shame any male who has allegedly shamed a female. That's the zero-sum game that comes with socially engineered egalitarianism.
Take for instance the woman who was recently fat-shamed by a man on a passenger flight. The story made international news:
A woman took to social media with an open letter addressed to a man who allegedly fat-shamed her on a flight from Orlando, to Detroit, last week.
In a Facebook post, which has since been deleted, passenger Katie Kiacz said she was on the Delta Air Lines flight last Tuesday when she saw an unidentified man write a text message to someone, complaining about her body.
I'm sure you're thinking, “Why did this woman read a stranger's text messages?” Good question. I thought that too. But then I realized that fat-shaming was worse than invading someone's privacy. So it didn't really matter that she creeped over his shoulder and read the man's text message. What mattered was that he referred to her as a “2 ton woman” to his friend. And that's a no-no in the status quo.
How did the nosy woman react? She wrote a letter to the unknown fat-shamer and posted it on her Facebook page. Undoubtedly the emotional woman did this with the rational thought that he would actually read her public letter (even though she admitted the man didn't acknowledge her existence), and not as signal for sympathy or attention. She basically just wanted to let him know that he should apologize for telling his friend that he had to sit next to a fat woman on the plane. She also wanted him to know that she wished she was fatter so she could have made him more uncomfortable. She even used the hashtags #immatakeupallyourspace and #2tonfun. How cute...
Men need to realize that this isn't the 1950s anymore. Society has concluded that a woman's emotions are more important than a man's logic. And it has to be that way. Otherwise, how can we be equal?
I can only imagine how many of her friends told her how beautiful she was after she posted her diatribe. I'm sure they encouraged her to gain more weight so she could “take up more space” every time a man who doesn't like fat women has to sit by her (“You don't exist to please men. Fat is beautiful. Eat another doughnut, girl.”). That's how social progress works: rub fat in the face of fat-shamers.
And it's not just fat-shaming that will get men in hot water with women. Unsolicited compliments are unethical too. Just ask the “oil change guy” whose conversation went viral after he texted a customer to tell her that she was “gorgeous.”
The woman had her oil changed at a Jiffy Lube. She and the male technician became friendly, and he decided to get her phone number from the sale's ticket (in this case, invasion of privacy was a bad thing). He then texted her a compliment: “You are gorgeous”
One afternoon, an iMessage popped up on the woman's phone, reading simply: 'You are gorgeous.'
'Who is this?' the woman replied.
'Your favorite oil change guy,' said the man.
'The guy from Jiffy Lube?' asked the woman.
'Yes ma'am,' he answered. 'I couldn't help but to let you know.'
Before it was degrading to tell a woman she's “gorgeous,” it was fairly normal male behavior. I'll admit that it wasn't very professional of him to get the number the way he did, but you have to admire his determination. Plus, if this was 20 years ago, he could have just looked up her name in the phone book and called her. That was pretty much the norm before cell phones came into existence. If the woman didn't want to talk, she would hangup the phone. If he called back, she might take the phone off the hook for awhile. No big deal. It never made national news.
There had to be some flirting going on between the two. It wasn't a lucky guess that she knew exactly who it was when he said, “it's your favorite oil change guy” (she later told him he wasn't even in her top 5). Not to mention that no other women have claimed he did the same thing to them. So it's not like he does this to every attractive woman that comes to get her oil changed.
There are always two sides to every story, but the conversation between the two has been made public. So if the dude was a creeper, at least he was respectful (“You're gorgeous”, “Yes ma'am”, “I'm sorry”). And instead of blocking his number, or demanding he not text her again, the woman decided to publicly lecture him (similar to our fat-shamed fatty). I mean, she practically wrote this guy a book. Therefore, the question begs to be asked: was this really about him, or hits on her sister's social media page?
My sister got creeped on and sexually harassed by a jiffy lube guy via text from his personal phone and.... pic.twitter.com/ugKajMCvCK— Unproblematic and nice account (@LovableAndKind) January 15, 2019
Not quite sure how texting a woman "you are gorgeous" constitutes being "sexually harassed." That's like saying petting a dog is animal abuse. But anyway, I do agree with the woman that this was a “teachable moment” for the young man. His first mistake wasn't the way he got her number (women like risk takers). It was that he complemented her looks. Never tell a woman she looks good. As much as women say they don't like to be judged on their looks, their psyche can't handle it when you don't. She will eventually become insecure and start to drop little hints (“I don't feel pretty today”). Ignoring her beauty is one of Heartiste's 16 Commandments of Poon:
X. Ignore her beauty
The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell. It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself “she’s interesting” or “she might be worth getting to know”. Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t fucking. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals. Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don’t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.
He would have had a much better chance of success if he had innocently messaged her about her vehicle (“I found some tire caps laying on the ground and wanted to make sure I put yours back on”). Then he could have easily transitioned into small talk from there (“Oh, good. Just wanted to make sure they weren't yours. How's your day?”). Or he could have just went anonymous jerkboy to feel her out before he revealed his identity (“You've been naughty. Need a spankin?”). Any response would signal game on (a happily married woman would block the number without replying). Then it would be up to him to say the right things. For example, she might say, “Who is this?” To which he would respond, “Not your hubby.” Keep her guessing, which is another one of Heartiste's golden rules:
VI. Keep her guessing
True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don’t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight — his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you’re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.
He needed to approach her as a woman he's trying to get a date with, not sell a vacuum to. If he's confident enough to say “it's your favorite oil change guy,” then there's no reason for the “yes ma'am” crap. He should have continued with the confidence: “Of course it is. Who else would it be?”
When the woman went on that long rant, he shouldn't have texted, “Sorry about that yes ma'am.” He should have either ignored her, or doubled down: “I ain't your husband. If you talk to me like that again, I'll put you in timeout.”
And finally, never apologize to a woman. Just don't do it. It's a sign of weakness, and it's never going to get you anywhere. So why bother? It's no different than shitlibs who demand an apology when someone says something racist. Has that ever worked? Ever?
Look at the infamous fat-shamer in our first example. The fatty was beside herself because he wouldn't apologize for calling her fat. It's like smirking in the face of a native beating a drum. Checkmate. Once again, we reference Heartiste's commandments:
VIII. Say you’re sorry only when absolutely necessary
Do not say you’re sorry for every wrong thing you do. It is a posture of submission that no man should reflexively adopt, no matter how alpha he is. Apologizing increases the demand for more apologies. She will come to expect your contrition, like a cat expects its meal at a set time each day. And then your value will lower in her eyes. Instead, if you have done something wrong, you should acknowledge your guilt in a glancing way without resorting to the actual words “I’m sorry.” Pull the Bill Clinton maneuver and say “Mistakes were made” or tell her you “feel bad” about what you did. You are granted two freebie “I’m sorry”s for the life of your relationship; use them wisely.
The moral of the story can be summarized via two unambiguous perspectives:
- Gender equality is about women rising to the standards of men, not vice versa. If women want to be viewed as truly equal, then it's time they man up and quit acting like women.
- The survival of WestCiv is more about passing shit tests than proving facts. If all it took was the truth to win, we would have won a long time ago.
